A leadership mindset isn't granted by an org chart. It's built in the gap between "no one told me to" and "I did it anyway."

Nobody made me a leader. I just started acting like one.

I may have watched too many doctor shows on TV.

The Shift That Changes Everything

Having ideas is easy. Committing to one is harder. In this final post of the 10-discipline leadership series, Toby explores Energetic Engagement and the difference between tinkering and truly investing in an idea, goal, ...

TLDR: Presence is one of the most powerful and overlooked leadership disciplines. For years, I relied on multitasking, especially during Zoom meetings, believing I was being productive while my attention was constantly d...

Leadership becomes lonely when we believe we have to carry every answer ourselves. While solving problems alone may feel efficient, it often limits team ownership, creativity, and trust. True connection requires vulnerab...

TLDR: Confidence doesn’t come from already knowing you’ll succeed. It comes from trusting yourself to learn, adapt, and figure things out along the way. Throughout my life, I’ve discovered that the belief that I can lear...

Fear often feels like a warning sign, but it is usually a story about a future that has not happened yet. When I left a successful software career to become a coach, fear showed up with endless questions about income, fa...

Many leaders believe credibility comes from having all the answers. I used to think that too. But the more I focused on proving myself, the less I created space for others to contribute. Authentic leadership isn't about ...

Why is it so difficult to trust a process that's working? For many hyperachievers, especially those with a strong Controller saboteur, uncertainty feels like failure. In this post, I share a lesson from my coach training...

A number of years ago, I had a career decision to make. It was the kind that lands in your lap on a Tuesday and demands an answer by Friday.

Acceptance is one of the most misunderstood leadership skills. Many leaders think acceptance means giving up, but it actually means seeing reality clearly and responding to it without adding fear, assumptions, or unneces...

A wrong turn on a Hawaiian road reminded me how often we make decisions based on assumptions rather than facts. In leadership, the same thing happens when we react to people, situations, and challenges through the lens o...

I discovered ten core disciplines that shape how leaders think, act, and influence others. From awareness and authenticity to confidence, presence, and energetic engagement, these disciplines develop the inner game of le...

You’ve been crushing it. Staying late, leading projects, picking up slack that isn’t yours. And yet, the promotion hasn’t come. The raise hasn’t materialized. You’re watching people with half your output leapfrog into ro...

You're putting in the work, hitting your targets, and still watching other people get promoted ahead of you. It's frustrating—and more common than you'd think.

This final installment of the “15 Lies Women Are Told at Work” series explores why “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” is one of the most dangerous beliefs in business and leadership. Using examples like Blockbuster, Kodak...

Work does not need to be separate from enjoyment to be professional. Building friendships and creating moments of connection at work improves collaboration, communication, and retention. Drawing from Bonnie Hammer’s pers...

Winning is not everything. In fact, chasing it at all costs can lead to stress, burnout, and self doubt. Inspired by Bonnie Hammer’s concept of “winner takes all,” this post challenges the idea that success is about beat...